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Alice Pung, Her father’s daughter

November 23, 2011
Pung Her Fathers Daughter Black Inc

Bookcover for Pung's Her father's daughter (Courtesy: Black Inc)

Her father’s daughter (2011) is Alice Pung‘s second memoir – if you can quite call this book a memoir. Unpolished gem (2006), her first, established Pung in the eyes of both critics and readers as a writer to watch. I agreed with them, but with some minor reservations. She certainly demonstrated the ability to write and tell stories – plenty well enough for me to be happy to read more of her – but, it was a young person’s memoir about a family that had experienced things (such as the Pol Pot regime) that most of us couldn’t imagine. And Pung, born in Australia, didn’t seem to quite have the maturity then to fully appreciate this fact in the way she wrote of her family. Five years, though, have made the difference and I would happily apply my favourite Marion Halligan quote to this book:

Read a wise book, and lay its balm on your soul.

Because, this book is the whole package.

The first thing that stands out is the voice. The book is, in a way, a hybrid, a memoir-cum-biography, and Pung has chosen to write it in third person. This decision reminded me of Kate Holden’s The romantic: Italian nights and days in which she too chose third person to tell her story. But, these are very different stories, and the reason for using third person reflects the difference rather than suggesting a similarity. The difference is that this is not just Alice’s story as Unpolished gem was, but also her father’s story. It is Alice’s attempt to understand the things that clearly frustrated her in Unpolished gem, such as the over-protectiveness of her parents. In this book, her father has a voice. In fact, the book’s chapters see-saw between those labelled “Father” and “Daughter”, so that it reads almost like a conversation.

This conversation style is one part of the narrative structure. Another is the movement in geographic setting from Alice’s time in China, to her return to Melbourne, to her father’s life in Cambodia and then her much later visit to Cambodia with her father, and finally back in Melbourne again. This geographic movement is overlaid with the third significant aspect of the structure, its chronology. The book moves back in time from the present, from when Pung’s family is well-established in Australia with a successful business, with, that is, the life Pung wrote about in her first memoir. At the beginning of this book, Pung, in her late 20s, goes overseas for the first time and her father, as is his wont, is fearful:

It panics him whenever any of his children are far away.

He can’t understand why she must go away to write. After all, she can see these other places on Google Maps, so

why couldn’t she just see the world through these satellite pictures. It was safer.

Alice, being Australian-born, doesn’t understand the full extent of his fears but, as she writes the book, she learns why her father believes that

To live a happy life … you need a healthy short-term memory, a slate that can be wiped clean every morning.

We’ve all read and/or seen about the killing fields of Cambodia so I’m not going to detail here her father’s story of survival through one of the world’s terrible genocides. I will say, though, that for someone looking from the outside (me, the reader), Pung seems to have captured her father’s story authentically and conveys it in a way that we can understand why he expresses his love for his family in the fearful and sometimes controlling way he does. The result is a greater understanding from daughter to father, and, if Pung has got it right, from father to daughter too.

There are some lovely touches in the book about the business of writing memoir. Pung refers briefly to her parents’ reactions to Unpolished gem. Her father is proud but says that if he’d seen it pre-publication “there would have been parts we wouldn’t have let her include”. Pung continues:

She waited for more reproaches, even excoriation. It seemed impossible that this would be the extent of it, but it was. She started to see her mother and father in a new light. They had a sense of humour! They knew their private lives were completely separate from the world their daughter had described in another language.

Then, on different tack, comes this one, late in the book, on the writing of Her father’s daughter:

‘Do you think [says her dad] there’s too much suffering in the Cambodian part? Maybe white people don’t want to read about too much suffering. It depresses them.’

Ouch! There are a few ways to think about this one. Anyhow, Pung’s reaction is:

She didn’t know what to say about that. She knew exactly what he meant though. Her first book had been filled with the sort of sardonic wit that came easily to a person whose sole purpose in life was to finish university and find her first graduate position, knowing she was well on the way to becoming comfortably middle-class …

She decides that the time has come to look back and confront this part of her/their identity that her father had wanted to hide but that had heavily affected his parenting … In fact, it was around this point that I started to realise that my uncertainty about Unpolished gem might be more due to her father’s desire for “dismemory”, that is, to deliberately forget, than to her youthfulness. And the astonishing thing is, through all the description of people who did unimaginable things to other people, of people who suffered horrendously, of people who’d “lost their minds and did not bother to retrieve them”, the overriding emotion she conveys is that of love:

There’s no vocabulary
For love within a family, love that’s lived in
But not looked at …
(Epilogue, quoted from TS Eliot‘s “The elder statesman”)

 This is a fine, fine book and I’d recommend it to anyone – for its story, its writing and its humanity.

Alice Pung
Her father’s daughter
Collingwood: Black Inc, 2011
238pp.
ISBN: 9781863955423

(Review copy supplied by Black Inc)

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15 Comments leave one →
  1. November 23, 2011 1:45 pm

    I am enjoying this series on the Shadow Man Asian Literary Prize 2011. Love the novel concept inherent in the whole approach.

    And that quote of yours about reading. Perfect.

    • November 23, 2011 6:19 pm

      Thanks Magpie … you mean the Halligan quote? It’s a great one isn’t it. I read it years ago in her The fog garden, but it keeps popping into my head.

  2. November 23, 2011 2:15 pm

    Sounds like a wonderful book. It sometimes difficult to imagine the lives that other people have read and understand that person in the context of those experiences. Sounds like this book sheds some light on the importance of doing just that sometimes

    • November 23, 2011 6:21 pm

      You’ve nailed it in one Becky. That’s exactly what it does … a bit of the walk two moons in another person’s moccasins (though thank goodness just vicariously because noone would wish those moccasins on another human being!)

  3. November 23, 2011 2:47 pm

    I reviewed this book a little while back and I still think about it constantly. Pung’s voice does stand out, as you say. Many of her words and phrases continue to whisper to me on a daily basis and ‘dismemory’ is a delightful term that I have happily adopted.
    You’re right about the see-sawing chapters giving it the feel of a conversation.
    Great review.

    • November 23, 2011 6:24 pm

      Oh Karen lee, I’ll go look at your review. I’d love to have included more examples of her descriptions but the review was getting too long. You know how you start out on a review on a certain tack but there are so many things you’d love to say but just can’t cover all the tacks and remain both coherent and succinct!

  4. November 23, 2011 4:42 pm

    Thank you for this and for showing me the interview, mum. And for the TS Eliot 🙂 x

  5. November 23, 2011 7:37 pm

    Sounds beautiful and compelling. It must be so difficult to write effectively about such a chasm between generations and outlook. I’m extra curious about this generation of writers – look at Nam Le!

    • November 23, 2011 11:59 pm

      Thanks Catherine, I agree. It’s pretty exciting to see new writers like this appearing on the scene. If you click on Karen lee’s name above, and search for her review of the book you’ll see another positive perspective and some great excerpts.

  6. November 24, 2011 12:55 am

    Does this book stand on its own, or would one be advised to read Unpolished Gems first?

    • November 24, 2011 1:02 am

      Yes it does I think Debbie. Unpolished gem is well worth reading but I don’t believe you need it to read this one … Of course I have read the previous one and so may have read this in a different way to someone reading it “cold”, but I don’t see anything in it which depends on prior knowledge to make sense.

  7. November 24, 2011 4:47 am

    Oh this sounds like such a beautiful book! As I was reading your post I was wondering if her father was still alive and if so what he thought about the book so thanks for including that!

    • November 24, 2011 7:39 am

      It really is. I think her Dad would still be in his 60s. I’d like to know more about her mother now though.

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